Let me start with a parental parable. You face your five year old child and say: `Please have a glass of milk.' `I don't want milk' is the precocious reply from the annoyingly independently minded future citizen of our polity. `Milk is good for you.' `That's what you say' or `I don't feel like it' or `if it is so good, why don't you have some' or simply `no thank you.' So, next time you revert to the old classic: `Would you like strawberry milk, chocolate milk or plain milk?' It almost always works: They get a choice, or rather the feeling of choice, and you are the thoughtful, liberal minded non-authoritarian parent. It's a win-win situation.